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10 Reasons Why Porn is Trash and You Deserve Better

By October 11, 2019 No Comments

It is no secret that we’re an organization that shines a light on the harmful effects of porn, but we’re not interested in using shame to do that.

The fact is, tons of people have either dealt with an obsession with porn in the past or are currently battling pornography in their life. It is no surprise, considering that the world’s most popular porn site received 33.5 billion visits in 2018 alone.

These massive numbers should be a reminder that you’re not alone, if you have struggled with or are currently struggling with porn. In fact, a study done in 2008 found that 93% of boys and 62% of girls were exposed to porn in their early adolescent years. That’s a ton, and that was ten years ago before it was basically a requirement to own a smartphone.

If you’re one of the many people who has been exposed to porn’s lies, we have a message for you: you deserve better than what porn has to offer.

Allow us to explain why.

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1. You deserve to feel relationally connected to real people.

Do you ever feel massively disconnected to other people when you spend too much time playing video games or vegging in front of the TV? That’s because people need other people. Don’t get us wrong, we’d by lying if we said we didn’t binge-watch the new season of Stranger Things, but your intimate relationships can take a bad turn when they’re neglected or, even worse, replaced.

Porn can cause harm to your intimate relationships or even be a roadblock in creating healthy and needed real-life connections. You deserve to feel relationally connected to a real person—whether it’s a friend or partner—and not a stranger “performing” on a screen.

2. You deserve to have healthy relationships.

Porn sneaks its way into loving, committed relationships all the time. Porn is marketed as a relationship enhancer, but more couples are realizing the damage that porn can cause. The more porn the consumer watches, the more difficult it can become to be aroused by a real person. Negative self-images, less sex with your partner (if you have one), and breaking relationship trust are just a few ways that inviting porn in your relationship can hurt your healthy relationship.

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3. You deserve to have friendships that keep you from feeling lonely.

Think porn keeps you company? Think again. Porn promises immediate satisfaction and easy intimacy, but in the end, it provides just the opposite. The isolation that can result in heavy porn consumption can make it difficult to create deep, meaningful relationships with real people, resulting in more isolation and loneliness, which then fuels the need for more porn. See the vicious cycle?

4. You deserve to spend your free time doing things that make you truly happy.

If you’re someone who wishes there was more time in the day, you’re not alone. Somehow 24-hours doesn’t seem like enough, especially when you factor in things like sleep, school, and work. When you actually do have some time for yourself, how would you rather spend it? Hidden by yourself, consuming lies that probably leave you feeling anxious and depressed? Or would you rather spend it doing something that makes you feel happy?

Try opting for doing something else that boosts your mood, like taking up a new skill, and we think you’ll notice radical improvements in your life.

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5. You deserve honest relationships with your loved ones.

Life is no fun when you’re living a lie. Hiding a secret can hinder even your closest relationships with the most important people in your life. The sad reality is that shame causes individuals to keep their porn struggle private and, in turn, lie to the ones they love to keep their secret. (Note: there is a big difference between guilt and shame.)

Being open and honest about your porn habits might not completely get rid of the shame, but it will definitely help and it might help you face the issue with honesty and a support system who can walk with you through the battlefield.

6. You deserve a healthy and fulfilling sex life.

Emotional connections between you and your partner are not the only things that porn can change. Porn can also harm your sex life when you realize a physical connection with another person is difficult or seemingly impossible. Porn-induced erectile dysfunction (ED) in men under the age of 40 is more and more common since the introduction of internet porn.

There is even anecdotal evidence of women who also have trouble getting aroused with a real person because of porn. Yikes.

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7. You deserve to feel good about your body.

Porn shows airbrushed fantasies, people with “perfect” bodies, with no noticeable imperfections.  This not only affects the way you can view your partners and others, but it can also have a negative effect on the way you view yourself. Research has shown that women whose partners consume porn are more likely to worry about how they look when they are being intimate with their significant other.

But this doesn’t only affect women; men get insecure too. In one study, viewing porn was correlated with higher levels of body dissatisfaction among men.

8. You deserve to have a productive and healthy life.

Addictions can make us lose sight of our priorities and ultimately feel unproductive. Our grades slip, our passion for projects dwindle, and our relationships can become abandoned. In a 2015 study, adolescent boys who watched increasing amounts of porn were found to have their grades slip in six months’ time.

When somebody gets caught up with an excessive porn habit, it can cause them to lose focus on the “big picture.” Things like studying for the big test or working on your presentation take a back seat, as you spend time and energy watching airbrushed and exaggerated sex on screen.

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9. You deserve healthy expectations in relationships.

Hardcore porn conveys violence as a sexual fantasy, and the consumer can start to believe the lies that abuse is what women (and men) actually want. Not cool.

Considering that 88% of porn videos fetishize violence and abuse, you’re likely to come across it even if you only visit one site one time. Consumers and their partners deserve better than having harmful expectations, they deserve to expect respect in your relationship, not the violent and degrading performances in porn.

10. You deserve to have good mental health.

Addiction and codependency are never fun, especially when it’s with something that can damage your relationships and brain. Recent research shows how porn affects the brain like a drug and how it can become addictive like one.  Porn is even shown to affect the neuronal pathways in your brain, changing the way consumers are aroused. Does that sound healthy to you?

You deserve better.

Whether you believe it now or not, you are someone that deserves a healthy life, free from porn.

Whether you’ve never watched porn or you find yourself battling the urge to watch porn all the time, it makes no difference—you deserve a happy, productive, real, and healthy life free from porn’s toxicity. And if you need help, we’ve got your back.

Need help?

For those reading this who feel they are struggling with pornography, you are not alone. Check out our friends at Fortify, a science-based recovery platform dedicated to helping you find lasting freedom from pornography. Fortify now offers a free experience for both teens and adults. Connect with others, learn about your compulsive behavior, and track your recovery journey. There is hope—sign up today.

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