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Did you know that porn can distort people’s perceptions of sex, intimacy, body image, and sexual performance?

And not only that, research is shedding light on a previously little-known fact about porn: it’s harmful to a consumer’s brain. Thanks to all the research that has been done in recent years, people are finally starting to realize that pornography is toxic.

The research on how porn affects how consumers view them self, their partner, and their relationships, in general, is becoming prevalent. When people consume porn, it not only warps their view of others, but it also twists their view of themselves.

Sex can be great, comparing it to porn never is.

Sex can be an awesome part of a loving relationship. Having sex with someone you love can be one of the most freeing experiences, especially when there’s no self-consciousness and you can be together with your partner, exactly as you both are.

But when it comes to porn, it can turn this intimate connection into a rehearsed performance that’s less about the emotional bonding that happens when people have sex.

Porn fails to emphasize the most real parts in relationships. It doesn’t depict real people with real bodies with real (and beautiful) flaws. In fact, it tries to sell the complete opposite—a photoshop fantasy that reality should never have to compete with. So it only makes sense that those who are exposed to porn can have their perceptions of sex twisted and warped. Soon, real people don’t measure up, and partners are considered less exciting when compared to an exaggerated production on a computer screen.

You can imagine how hurtful it would be if you were the person who is suddenly viewed as less desirable when compared to the porn that your significant other has been watching. Ouch.

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Not only does porn affect how users view others but it also affects how they view themselves. Porn users may find that not only do they see their partners in a less than “satisfying” way, but they start to think that they themselves are less attractive as well. They may be more critical of their sexual organs, or of their personal appearance.

Double ouch.

Nobody, guy or girl, likes being unfairly compared to someone (or something) else. And when that something else is porn, it becomes even more damaging. In fact, research shows that the increase of pornography in society is a cause for an increasing number of women seeking plastic surgery to change their bodies.

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Research has also shown that women exposed to porn or who are partners of porn addicts are more likely to engage in sexual acts that make them feel uncomfortable. They are also more likely to worry about how they look instead of enjoying being intimate with their significant other. To top things off, porn adds pressure on women to comply with and be okay with pretty much anything their partner wants, which includes sexual violence and degrading behavior that is so prevalently found in porn.

Guys get insecure too.

This is not just a single gender issue. Let’s talk about how porn affects men’s self-image as well. For men who think that consuming porn could somehow make them feel more manly, sexy, or cool, think again.

In one study done on both straight and gay men, consuming pornography was correlated with higher levels of body dissatisfaction. Pornography exposure was correlated with social physique anxiety for gay men and a higher tendency of developing an eating disorder.

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In a similar more recent study, a group of college men who viewed porn rated how they viewed themselves in terms of body satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, and overall emotional well-being. After analyzing the data, it turns out that guys who consume porn are much more likely to have anxiety in relationships and withdraw from them more than guys who aren’t consuming porn. Their sense of emotional security was lower overall than guys who do not consume pornography. Not very sexy, is it?

It only makes sense that, like women, guys are also more insecure about themselves after consuming porn due to the inaccurate portrayal of bodies and sexuality. Research also shows that guys who consume porn report feeling more inadequate about their sexual performance.

Also, negative body image among boys/men isn’t the only thing fueled by the idealized male bodies they see in the media, but also by the idealized images of women. This study found that men were more self-conscious about their own bodies after viewing magazines featuring photos of sexualized, scantily clad women.

Choose love, not porn.

Is it really anybody’s goal to make themselves or their partner feel inadequate, insecure, and unattractive? Of course not. (Or, at least we hope not.)

Porn promotes all of these ideas and perceptions. Instead, choose real love that builds you up and truly appreciates you and your partner for exactly who you both are.

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