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Why Fighting For Real Love Means Taking a Stand Against Porn

By February 3, 2021No Comments
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Too often pornography, sex, and love are all categorized as the same thing.

We think it’s time to take a closer look and see things as they really are: pornography is the antithesis of love and connection. So many people chase after what they think love is from what they see in the movies and TV, read in books, and even when they consume porn. The truth is, these are all exaggerated and warped depictions of what’s real, and what’s healthy in relationships.

The porn industry shouldn’t tell you what love and sex feel like or look like, and form your opinions for you. The porn industry shouldn’t make your fantasies for you. Only you can determine that. That’s why we raise awareness on the realities of porn’s effects on consumers and relationships, because we are completely for love. Our mission to fight for love over porn is best summarized by these famous words by author Dan Millman:

“The secret of change is to focus your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”

Instead of dedicating all our time to fighting against pornography, we think a better solution is to promote real love and show that it’s worth fighting for. Pornography is the most twisted and distorted representation of love, sex. and relationships. And we know that, whoever you are, you deserve better than that.

So let’s talk about the differences between love and porn, because there’s quite a few of them.

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Pornography is…

Fake. Nothing about porn is real. Not only is it not real, it creates unrealistic sexual expectations. Sex is natural, but porn is a product. There’s a difference.

Selfish. Porn only cares about itself. It will leave you just as it found you—alone. Porn minimizes the things you need like committed relationships, and it glorifies things like violence against women, and reduces the individual to body parts without any other characteristics that make them a human being—personality, hopes, dreams, and emotions.

Ugly. There is nothing glamorous about porn. It treats people as objects. That’s ugly. We as human beings are wired with the need to love, to feel love, and to share those feelings of love with another person. Pornography makes you think those needs are being met, but really, they aren’t. Pornography will not and cannot love you back, or teach you how to love yourself or others well.

Love is…

Real. Sharing your time with another actual person, learning and growing together, that’s love. That’s real. If you feel it, you know it. Love puts the needs of others above the needs of self. It wants what is best for the other person regardless of the effort or sacrifice. Healthy love leaves you better than you were when it found you. Love allows you to be vulnerable and gives you the ability to be responsible to treat with care the vulnerabilities of another person. Porn can’t give you any of that.

Beautiful. Some people might think, “Pornographic images are beautiful to me,” but there is nothing beautiful or meaningful about exploitation, sex trafficking, sexual assault, or sexual violence—all of these things that are directly and inextricably connected to porn. Two real individuals in a committed relationship—now that’s beautiful, and that’s meaningful.

Giving. Love gives all it has without focusing on receiving anything in return. It is important to remember that even in a society that is inundated with pornography and pornographic images, you can choose to rebel—you can fight for love. As long as you are fighting back, and rejecting the lies that porn sells, love wins.

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Fight the New Drug is all about fighting for real love and rejecting its hollow counterfeit, porn. Talk to those around you about this issue. Don’t let society tell you that it’s too awkward to address. It isn’t, trust us. We can’t afford to continue in silence because we feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about it. Learn all you can about the harmful effects of pornography so you are prepared and equipped in your fight against it.

Remember the words of building the new rather than fighting the old. We are not here just to battle with the porn industry and try to take them down. Our purpose is just as much to promote real love and healthy relationships.

Click here to learn more about why you and your relationships are better off without porn.

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