It’s no secret that today’s kids and teenagers are getting the majority of their sex education from porn. Sure, schools are still teaching textbook sex-ed in school and some parents are still having the birds and the bees chat, but all this seems to be ineffective in a culture where explicit video of people having sex can be accessed with the click of a button. According to one poll, only 43% of parents actually feel comfortable talking to their kids about sex. As a result, most kids are going to their laptops and phones to get an up close and personal look at sex. A UK study surveyed more than 2,500 grade school and university students and found that 60% of kids watch porn to get more information about sex.

That’s right, pornography has become one of the main sex educators in society, and here is what it’s teaching our generation about sex:

1. It’s all about you, man.

As much as the porn industry wants you to think that it “empowers” women and that it’s a “safe and healthy exploration of sexuality,” the reality is that it is the product of a $97 billion a year global industry, aimed entirely at pleasing men and only men. In almost all mainstream porn, the woman submits to whatever the man wants to do, regardless of how uncomfortable, painful or degrading it is.

As an LA Times article once put it, “Women are no more than a set of orifices intended for the use and abuse of men, and men are nothing more than anonymous phalluses demanding to be serviced.” How disgusting of a description is that? But it’s the truth. Porn teaches that sex is all about the man’s pleasure and that dominating women is the best way to get it.

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2. Violence is sexy.

Several years ago, a team of researchers studied the most popular porn films that year—the ones bought and rented most often—and analyzed them. Of the 304 scenes analyzed, 88% contained physical violence, almost always toward the woman. On top of that, 49% contained verbal aggression. The typical scene averaged 12 physical or verbal attacks, and one managed to fit in 128 different instances of physical and verbal aggression. What this teachers viewers is concerning to say the least.

We have also compiled the disturbing stories of 10 ex-porn stars (warning: graphic) who have shared what they went through while in the porn industry, including brutal violence and having to take painkillers so they can hide the pain while filming. In what world is it okay for someone’s pain to be filmed and sold for profit? Porn teaches that hurting a partner is pleasurable and that doing so is normal.

Related: National Survey Shows Nearly Half Of Adults Think Violent Porn Is Okay

3. Porn sex is the best sex.

One of the many problems with porn is that it provides a completely unrealistic depiction of sex, one that’s completely exaggerated and shocking. Because of how our brain’s work, the stimulus overload of watching porn for hours can keep the pleasure chemicals in your brain’s reward pathway elevated for hours and hours. Over time, porn desensitizes the brain’s pleasure center, meaning the viewer can no longer get aroused on the same old stuff and need something new, something more. This leads to dependency, compulsion, and potentially even addiction.

For many teenage males, watching years of hardcore porn leads to what experts are calling porn-induced erectile dysfunction. Real sex is a completely different experience from watching porn alone with a computer screen, so when teenage boys addicted to porn finally have a real sexual experience, their bodies don’t respond. Basically, the brain doesn’t recognize sex as “the real deal” and thinks that porn is what it needs to get aroused.

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4. Pleasure is all that matters.

In porn, the ultimate and only goal is sexual stimulation. There’s no emotional connection, there’s no romance, there’s no conversation or commitment. This is the complete opposite of what love and sex is about. That’s why the slogan of our worldwide campaign is porn kills love.

Countless studies and therapists are showing that porn damages relationships by making the viewer less satisfied by their own partner and decreasing interest in committed relationships. Porn creates the attitude that sex is a game and that there’s always someone hotter out there to play with. It teaches the viewer that other human beings are sex object and their worth is based on their ability to give pleasure. Is it any wonder that research has found that 56% of divorces involve at least one person with an obsessive interest in porn? Porn is a cheap substitute for real intimacy and leaves partners feeling inadequate and insecure.

5. Porn is a normal, natural expression of our sexuality.

Our generation has been raised with constant internet access and always-evolving technology. Because we’ve always had such instant access to porn online, many fall into believing the myth that porn is a normal part of our everyday lives. This couldn’t be more false. Psychologists are showing what watching porn does to the brain and neuroscientists are speaking out about how the human brain was never designed to watch high definition videos of other human beings perform extreme sex acts.

Pornography is harmful and research is proving it. Rather than being remembered as the generation that consumed the most internet porn, let’s be the generation that understands the facts, takes a stand, and fights for love instead.

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