“It’s not worth it. Then you have to make further negotiations with yourself like, ‘Will I do torture porn? Will I do fetish porn? Will I do…forced sex?'”
At the very least, porn is something that usually makes consumers feel they’re doing something that doesn’t benefit their relationships. How’s that healthy?
Your decision to leave porn behind can inspire others to do the same. And as demand lessens, the industry weakens. Choosing to ditch porn is powerful.
“After our first son was born, I found it in the search history again, I felt betrayed and sick to my stomach scrolling through descriptions of women that looked nothing like me.”
Women can be addicted to porn too. It’s not just a “male problem.” I was married and had children before I confided in my husband.
Under the guise of a sleep study, one man drugged and raped 100 women, and made $100,000 selling the videos of it to porn sites.
Billie explained her fashion choices in a short video ad for Calvin Klein. The reason she hides behind baggy clothes might be different than you expect.
Research shows that trauma is normal. If you’re dealing with symptoms like this in the wake of discovering a partner’s porn obsession, you’re not alone.
“I started actively seeking out pornography when I was 14 years old. I’d seen porn before when my friends would call me over and show me pictures.”
“When my boyfriend and I were hugging on the couch and I saw his phone, I was extremely distraught to see that one of the internet tabs was labeled ‘interracial gang bang.'”
Let’s compare just a few porn scenarios to what their outcomes could really look like. Keep in mind, these are all common porn themes and storylines found on mainstream sites with a simple Google search.
“He had kept it hidden but when I found out I told him how uncomfortable I was with it. From then on, I would catch him looking at porn off and on and then would explain to him my feelings about how it made me feel.”
