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Trigger warning: The following post contains descriptions of sexual scenarios that may be triggering for those recovering from a struggle with porn.
Since 2017, founder of Realbotix Matt McMullen has faced more than his fair share of criticism for his creation of the female RealDoll, Harmony—complete with “big breasts” and “porn star features.”
He’s responded to the ongoing accusations of objectifying women by creating a male version that is just as objectifying as its female counterpart.
But what is a sex doll, really?
Realbotix sex dolls are designed to be indistinguishable physically, cognitively, and emotionally from an actual human, except “hotter” and prepared to fulfill any desire. The most popular model of the Harmony doll is five-foot-one, 70 pounds, and has size 32F breasts. (Pretty “realistic,” right?)
Users can literally customize every feature of their sex doll—even choosing replicas of their favorite porn performer.
One man—hired by McMullen to “test drive” female sex dolls like cars— says, “You can pick her nipples, eyelashes, eyebrows, colors, lipstick, makeup, fingernail polish, everything. And you can create the doll that is most arousing for you.”
Consumers even sculpt the personality of their doll—choosing from characteristics like sexy, funny, shy, jealous, angry, intellectual, talkative, insecure, moody—even specifying the characteristic they want to be dominant.
After designing the perfect doll, he plugs it in like an appliance and gets to work: “Having sex with Harmony, I broke her. Knocked her senseless, mechanically. But that’s what Matt wanted me to do. Knock her around. Do what you got to do. We want to find out what the weaknesses are.”
Meet Henry: the first male sex doll
In 2018, Realbotix announced the creation of the first-ever male sex robot—to be released early this year. The goal is to create an idealized version of what women want that is so lifelike, the consumer eventually forgets they’re interacting with a machine.
According to poll data gathered from Realbotix, women are looking not just for a sex partner, but a companion who will listen to them and form a meaningful connection. The goal is for this inanimate silicone bot to hijack a woman’s natural longing for unconditional love.
Their newest sex robot does just that, objectifying men in the process.
Meet Henry—the latest creation from Realbotix, ranging from $11,000-$50,000.
He comes with six-pack abs, airbrushed features, and a customizable “bionic” penis that has more ribbed-for-your-pleasure vascularity than occurs naturally. The most significant selling feature is that it can “go as long as you want,” plugging into electricity instead of being battery-operated.
That’s right—Henry is always ready to perform and won’t ever quit.
In addition to tailoring his facial hair, pubic hair, and more, buyers can upgrade by ordering a customizable robotic head from an a la carte menu. These lifelike heads are about $11,000-$15,000 and give the robot it’s “personality”—including full facial animation. The heads are controlled by an app on the user’s phone.
McMullen says that his focus with the male robot is to create the feeling that there is someone there for you. When plugged in, Henry says phrases like, “You can count on me for the good and bad moments,” as reinforced by the Realbotix tagline, “Be the first to never be lonely again.”
McMullen has even coined his own theory: “If people are connecting with other people through technology, and if those virtual connections create loneliness and isolation, why not use technology to create an alternative sort of relationship—a relationship with technology?”
He admits that people are missing out on human interaction, and attempts to fill the void with the fake companionship of a computer.
The impact of virtual reality sex on individuals and society
So what if lonely people want to invest financially, emotionally, and physically in a sex robot? Why would someone want to be with a real person if there’s a synthetic version that never tires, never quits, never says no, never gets pregnant or gives you STD’s—but exists solely to pleasure the consumer? What’s the big deal—and what does this have to do with porn?
Many people don’t see anything unhealthy with exactly that.
For example, David Levy, an expert in artificial intelligence, predicted that by the year 2050 humans will have a variety of intimate relationships with robots—including friendship, love, and marriage.
Futurologist Ian Pearson goes even further to suggest that by 2050 humans will have more sex with robots than with other people, and based on trends in the $15 billion sex-toy industry—like VR porn and the rise of remote-controlled sex toys—by 2025 women will prefer robots to men.
But take a moment to consider the societal and relational impact if these predictions—based on current trends—become a reality.
Silicone can never and should never replace skin
Fantasies sold in porn, artificial intelligence and the variety of ways the two intertwine can define what consumers want in a partner and what they should expect out of sex with a real human partner.
The sex industry as a whole exists to commodify sex and make a profit off of the vulnerability, loneliness, and isolation of its consumers. The basis of creating male and female sex robots shows that humans don’t just want sex, but connection. But the problem is, they can’t genuinely get that with something that isn’t real.
Consumers are set up for deep unfulfillment through fantasies that are unattainable, and believing that a healthy, fulfilling, intimate relationship isn’t possible or worth their time. The most troubling part is, according to science and research, consumers often end up preferring these exaggerated versions over a real relationship.
The disintegration of real relationships and the idea that people are comparable to objects for immediate consumption and disregard is harmful to individuals and society. While virtual sex promises to cure loneliness, research shows it objectifies the real humans it attempts to imitate, and leaves the consumer more lonely than before.
Choosing reality doesn’t mean settling for less, but giving yourself the opportunity for so much more—real human connection in all its raw and real imperfection. That’s something a silicone copy can never provide, no matter how much money someone spends on it.