Since 2009, we've given visibility to research and personal accounts demonstrating how pornography can negatively impact individuals, relationships, and society. Through this grassroots movement, millions of people have found hope and freedom. We couldn't do this without Fighters like you!
First of all, I would like to say thank you to everyone involved. I was introduced to porn in 5th grade by a friend. This was the very beginning of a vice that would consume my life. For the next 9 years of my life porn controlled me. It ruined friendships and relationships with family and destroyed friendships and relationships with most of the women in my life. Porn twisted my idea of love, sex, and intimacy as a whole. I ruined a relationship with a wonderful woman who gave me every chance. I love her more than I love life itself but I hurt her in an inconceivable way because of the normalization of porn in my life for so long. Doing it alone was a struggle but I am proud to say that I am over 3 months clean. I have seen the impact in my day to day life and I can feel the emotional impact this change has caused. Porn numbs your mind to real love and true intimacy. I wish I discovered your page sooner but I cannot say thank you enough. Although I couldn’t save my relationship. I was able to save myself and any future partners. Thank you to everyone involved you guys have impacted my life so much I can barely recognize myself.
I’ve been donating to this cause for a year and a half now. My boyfriend of only a month opened up to me and told me that he used to have a pornography addiction but has been clean for over a year. This cause means even more to me now, knowing that someone I love has been affected by it and has been overcoming it. Thank you for all that you do!
“Fight for love.” You have no idea how this phrase is motivating me today. I’ve been struggling for more than 10 years with this addiction and it has been hard, falling again and again and again. But this movement came in a moment of darkness in my life when I thought there was no way out. My relationships were broken: girlfriend, family, and friends—all of them getting away because of my dark secret, and I couldn’t understand exactly why until I found FTND. Then it all made sense and put in me hope. I’m still struggling, but the frequency is less than the past years. I have some dark days, but phrases like “fight for love” give me a goal and remind me how important and special I am. Thanks, FTND!
As a young boy, I did not get any education on sex or have anywhere to turn to get my questions answered. The circles I was in presented sex as something that was gross, dirty, and wrong to want until marriage. Essentially, I feel like a lot of circles try to scare sexual desire out of people at a young age because, in their minds, it protects them. But when I got older and inevitably had these thoughts, questions, and desires, I felt like I had no person to go to in order to get answers and so because of my curiosity I stumbled upon porn but had nobody I could go to. My hope is to help change the stigma and the conversation around pornography and to help kids make an educated decision on it.
I came across one of your articles shortly after watching pornography 16 days ago. Since reading how porn is fake and ignores consent, and isn’t a real representation of what sex should be between two consenting adults, I realised the porn I was watching was creating a negative impact on my life. Not only that, I was using it to fulfill my emotional needs instead of seeking a real relationship. Since quitting porn after seeing your article, I changed the way I will go about having sex in the future. I’ll always be respectful and comfortably open to communicate with my romantic partner about sex. I’ll focus on what she prefers and is comfortable with doing rather than ignoring that and using her for sex. Since finding your site, I am very appreciative and I have made some amazing changes in my life for good.
I’ve followed you guys for a long time and it has made me more comfortable speaking out against something I never agreed with but was scared to speak on. So thank you for your account and the hard work you do!
I am not typically a person to listen to podcasts, but this is such an important topic. This is such educational and preventative information to help those who haven’t dealt with this (such as myself) in better helping us to understand the impact that this issue has on our generation. This information also helps those of us who haven’t dealt with these issues to be better equipped to help those who do struggle with pornography, etc. Everyone should listen in and they should educate themselves, or find help!
