Living in New Zealand’s laid-back culture has its definite advantages, but at the same time, can result in avoiding topics that we should be speaking about.
Porn is one of those topics that we as a country seem to stay quiet about.
The Struggle is Real
The challenge of spreading the movement in my home country is two-fold. First, the personal struggle many have to not give in to society’s constant pressure to take part in an objectifying mindset. It surprised me how young girls and guys start viewing porn here, and after talking with a few people it is apparent that it has continued into adulthood.
I think the biggest challenge has been having people look confused as to why anyone would want to speak up about what most consider so “harmless,” and want to make a difference. This is where Fight the New Drug’s resources have become so helpful. With facts in hand, it’s much easier to initiate and talk with people at a deeper level over simply saying, “Porn is harmful,” with no reasons to explain why.
In our information age, you can’t afford to not explain the science and research, if you want to make a deeper impact.
Many people have been able to come and talk to me after looking at the facts on FTND’s website, and end up making the choice for themselves to limit or stop consuming porn! For a country that’s so laid back, I celebrate every small win!
Secondly, if someone is truly against porn, then it’s massively important to be sure that their heart and eyes never entertain the thoughts that the porn industry wants us to have. This is incredibly difficult to implement in a culture that so strongly normalizes this industry.
But the Fight is Worth It
My advice to anyone who is passionate about spreading the message that Porn Kills Love is to simply keep at it! Be intentional with your actions surrounding this movement, and don’t give up. You’re making more of a difference than you know.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you won’t make a difference! Start those conversations, and above all keep it respectful, and keep it about real love.
You WILL come up against people who challenge you, but we won’t change anything unless we are willing to boldly take a stand and fight for love! After all, the fight is totally worth it.