Everyone knows about porn, but not everyone knows about the brutal treatment and abuse that performers often go through to create it. Hear from 10 popular performers reveal what it’s really like to be part of the world’s “sexiest” job.

Watch these passionate advocates actually have a civil, productive conversation about porn and take notes the next time you’re talking about porn’s harms with someone.

Today, they shared a raw, vulnerable look at how porn can impact relationships and the consumer’s understanding of sexuality and sexual expectations. Join them at the table.

“I couldn’t hold down long-term relationships because I never knew how to properly have one. All my information about love was from the porn I watched.”

Dear FTND, I wanted to start this note by saying thank you. Because of you, your articles, your advocacy, and speaking out about pornography, I am overcoming…

Meet Tevan Tobler, a 16-year-old honor student who was the former president of the National Junior Honor Society, a champion high school wrestler, and an active member in his local community. He’s also a victim of sextortion and took his own life as a result.

“First I had to stop eating, immediately. Porn performers are tight bodied with large fake breasts. At least they were in the porn he was into. I couldn’t pencil in surgery but I could at least slim down.”

Cover photo by Caju Gomes. 6 minute read. My dad doesn’t have a porn addiction. He can stop any time he wants. …At least that’s what he likes…

“Did I feel like this when I was addicted to porn? Did I feel like I wanted to be with porn, love it and marry it? Did porn give me this giddy feeling? NO.”

“I would never have believed a late-night conversation about porn with my 14-year-old daughter would end up being a defining moment in our relationship, but it was.”

“There were countless times I’d walk in on him watching porn and I wouldn’t even get a sorry. I would get ‘it’s your fault for coming in without knocking.'”

“People need to know about its consequences. If I did, I wouldn’t have brought it into the marriage bed. I bought into its lies, but not everyone has to.”