“I reached out to a friend and I spilled my heart to her. Literally as the words ‘I have a problem with porn’ left my mouth it was as if a physical weight was lifted from me.”
“I spent the last six years hating myself, considering myself a monster, a disgrace to society, and a poor excuse for a human being.”
As an organization, we have never intended the phrase “Porn Kills Love” to be shaming. Helping people recognize that porn is harmful isn’t about shaming them, it’s about inviting them to truly consider how porn impacts their life.
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Guilt is adaptive and healthy. Shame is destructive and harmful. Guilt helps us grow and become the people we want to be. Shame pulls us down and stunts our growth. See the differences?
If you’re someone who isn’t ready or willing to date someone who has struggled, that’s okay. Here at Fight the New Drug, we believe fighting against shame is part of the fight against porn.
Supporting your partner with affirming words like “I am so proud of you! I never doubted you,” will allow your partner to feel comfortable telling you when their urges have been high.
What’s consumed in porn is often processed as reality—seared into memory as an unforgettable picture of what sex is and should be at its ideal. But what if those images, although perfectly crafted and powerfully convincing, aren’t an accurate or healthy depiction of reality at all?
A couple’s story does not have to be defined by or end with porn—we believe there is hope, especially for partners who equally want to fight for the relationship.
Before you set out on a mission to change the conversation around pornography, it’s key you’ll be able to answer some of these basic questions.
