Watch these passionate advocates actually have a civil, productive conversation about porn and take notes the next time you’re talking about porn’s harms with someone.

“If girls’ legs are crossed, boys often walk by and say, ‘Spread ‘em.’ They are in sixth grade. No 11-year-old should have to deal with things like this.”

“That feeling of being alone changed my junior year in college when a counseling group was started for women struggling with pornography. I walked into that room and it hit me that I wasn’t alone.”

“I can’t go anywhere without visually critiquing the men I see. I look at them like products and evaluate them like I am assigning their prices.”

“I would brag about how cool I was for being so open-minded and boys would often be amazed and tell me they wished their girlfriends were like me.”

After the rape, Rose didn’t think her situation could get any worse—and then she learned that one of the men filmed everything and uploaded it to Pornhub.

“This story starts about two years ago, when I started getting strange phone calls from a blocked number… He called one day and said, ‘I watch.'”

“It wasn’t until I decided to quit porn and really focus on my family and wife that things turned around. It’s been the best 4 months of my life so far!”

“Up until I found out, I didn’t have a clue; but whenever I left him home alone, that different side of him would come out.”

“I was approached by a man when I was alone at National Gallery in London who introduced himself as an art professor looking for models.”

“My husband wouldn’t stop looking at porn no matter what I did. Then one day it dawned on me. What if I join in? What if I watch porn with him?”

It started out of curiosity but had a hold on him for probably at least 4 years. I was crushed, but also felt so naive for not knowing about it.