“I hated myself. I wanted to quit our marriage because I felt I had failed my wife and our kids.”
“My wife would be extremely hurt by this, and the last thing I want to do is hurt her. I’ve never told her about the struggle, but I’ve said quite a few things that have suggested an old habit.”
“With my first relationship, and most relationships after, my primary focus was on having sex. Yet, I didn’t understand how to have real sex because of what I had seen in porn over the years.”
“I began to resent myself for this porn obsession I couldn’t get over, and I was told by peers and society that it was a ‘natural part of growing from a boy to a man.'”
“I respect my body more, and I wear what I feel like wearing with confidence without feeling like I am on display. This is more liberating than any porn I have watched.”
As an organization, we have never intended the phrase “Porn Kills Love” to be shaming. Helping people recognize that porn is harmful isn’t about shaming them, it’s about inviting them to truly consider how porn impacts their life.
This r/AskReddit thread asking, “What are some dark secrets about the porn industry?” got 13,000 comments, and some of them are concerning.
“He makes zero attempts to initiate sex and even calls it a ‘chore,’ saying that he gets to ‘enjoy himself instead of having to focus on satisfying someone else’ because it ‘gets old.'”
Porn is produced for entertainment purposes, not education. Clearly, porn is not a quality tool to learn about mutually satisfying sex.
“I became hooked to porn as time progressed and the access became more easy. But a strange trend followed me as well: depression.”
“Last week, I celebrated my 500th day free from porn. Even though I have been in recovery for two years, it took most of the first year of working through my baggage and getting the tools I needed to find freedom.”
“This is what porn did for me. It reduced me to feeling ashamed of myself because I didn’t have the ‘confidence’ to hurt or humiliate on men for money.”