Since 2009, we've given visibility to research and personal accounts demonstrating how pornography can negatively impact individuals, relationships, and society. Through this grassroots movement, millions of people have found hope and freedom. We couldn't do this without Fighters like you!
Thank you for all that you do. Your movement has changed the trajectory of my life and given me many strategies to continue my recovery from pornography and also has informed my girlfriend on how to better support me and understand in difficult times that it was me and not her. The documentary was a great resource, too—we watched it several times.
I came across one of your articles shortly after watching pornography 16 days ago. Since reading how porn is fake and ignores consent, and isn’t a real representation of what sex should be between two consenting adults, I realised the porn I was watching was creating a negative impact on my life. Not only that, I was using it to fulfill my emotional needs instead of seeking a real relationship. Since quitting porn after seeing your article, I changed the way I will go about having sex in the future. I’ll always be respectful and comfortably open to communicate with my romantic partner about sex. I’ll focus on what she prefers and is comfortable with doing rather than ignoring that and using her for sex. Since finding your site, I am very appreciative and I have made some amazing changes in my life for good.
I know you guys probably get hundreds of DMs, but I just wanted to thank the people who run this account. I have struggled with porn since I accidentally came across it on Pinterest (of all the places) when I was 10 years old. My entire childhood/young adulthood has been plagued by the horrible cycle of guilt, shame, resistance, redemption, and inevitable pain again that comes from a life of porn addiction. And it hurts so badly to know that my feelings are nothing compared to those of the people I helped exploit. It’s haunting. On nights that I’m struggling, getting on Instagram and reading your stories gives me the strength to say no. Thank you for helping me in the fight for real love. I fight for the dignity of every person.
I’ve struggled with porn addiction since age 12. I’m finally choosing to let my shame go. Porn is very prevalent in Icelandic society, but its negative effects are rarely, if ever, discussed. People view it as perfectly normal. Therapists never mention it as an issue, and I’ve never heard an Icelandic person admit they have a problem with porn, so I felt like I was the only one. Hearing personal accounts from FTND and studying the research has been so refreshing, knowing that I am not alone.
In high school, I gave a speech explaining porn stats I got from your website. The teacher told me afterwards she’d learned a lot and wished everyone in school could hear that message. I think people here would agree, but they just don’t know. So I wanted to thank you, especially for your podcast which has been a way for me to be surrounded by light and strength. You reach far outside the US, and have at least one supporter in Iceland. Much love.
This approach is exactly what changed my life. For years I was stuck in shame-based messaging that never worked. Your research-based, non-judgmental education showed me WHAT was happening and WHY—without making me feel like a monster. Education over shame. Facts over fear. That’s what actually helps people. Grateful for the work you’re doing. It matters more than you know.
