As an organization, we have never intended the phrase “Porn Kills Love” to be shaming. Helping people recognize that porn is harmful isn’t about shaming them, it’s about inviting them to truly consider how porn impacts their life.

I was about 7 years old the first time I was exposed to porn, right before I was sexually abused. However, the sexual abuse is another story….

“I’ve never had sex before, and, despite how badly I want to, I am terrified to do so now.”

Giving up porn isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Here are some tips that helped one guy take back control of his life and make much-needed life changes.

A few weeks ago, when I realized porn was literally controlling my life and it had more power of me than I had of it, I decided to try a 30-day challenge.

“Things about porn that used to excite me and turn me on, do nothing but disgust me now. I finally feel clean from watching all that stuff for a decade.”

“I realize that porn led me to weird, even dangerous, scenarios. It felt cool at the time, but at 14, I’d click from porn to chat rooms, where I’d connect with men much older than me.”

“Tossing and turning for hours at a time became increasingly irritating… I soon discovered watching porn immediately put an end to my sleepless nights.”

“All of a sudden, I could see no merit in my personality, I could only think about what those women had that I didn’t.”

“Last month, I finally had the calm and confidence in my heart to talk to him.”

Mindgeek, Pornhub’s parent company, not only reportedly ignored these four women’s pleas to have videos removed of their abuse and exploitation, but the massive porn company also allegedly profited from them.

FTND note: The aim of this post is to challenge the shaming narrative that happens often in this fight against porn, and offer an alternative narrative via exploring…