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11 People Share How They Actually Feel About the Porn They Watch

By September 27, 2018No Comments
TRIGGER WARNING
Some may find content in this post to be triggering. Discretion advised for some readers.

In our digital age, it seems that porn is a normal habit that everyone has. After all, if we can access any type of porn we want, 24/7/365 on a device that fits into our pockets, why wouldn’t we? Actually, there are a lot of reasons why not.

Ever since science and research started showing the real harms of watching porn, we are learning that maybe it’s not a good idea to expose yourself to graphic sexual content that can become addictive and affect your relationships.

But let’s forget about the research for a moment and talk about something more personal. There’s also a very real mental and emotional cost of watching porn, isn’t there? If you are being honest with yourself, it’s likely that you’ve felt that watching porn isn’t the best thing for you. It can make you feel cloudy, burned out, moody, and down.

As comedian Russell Brand said in a viral Youtube video: “There’s a general feeling isn’t there, in your core if you look at pornography, that this isn’t what’s the best thing for me to be doing, this isn’t the best use of my time. I don’t put that laptop lid down and think, ‘There, what a productive piece of time spent connecting with the world!'”

We recently dove into the popular Whisper app, where users can share secret messages anonymously. Many Whisper users take the opportunity to talk about their porn habits and what’s been bothering them. What we’re seeing is that many porn consumers are largely disgusted by what they watch, but can’t seem to stop watching. They also feel things like shame after they’re done consuming porn, even though they don’t know exactly why.

Well, we can give you an idea why: looking at porn is just like eating a bunch of junk food when you’re hungry—it makes you feel worse than before, and it never truly satisfies.

Via Whisper – some of these images and descriptions may be triggering for some readers.

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Shame and stigma, fueling the fire

Did you see all that? Shame. Or stigma. Or extreme levels of guilt—particularly the notion of social shaming or rejection that leads to self-loathing and depression.

How do shame and guilt specifically affect pornography consumers? A recent study looked at just that and found some interesting things. The researchers found that feeling shame about yourself is associated with higher compulsive consumption of pornography; as well as higher levels of depression and emotional distress related to unwanted levels of porn consumption. This study also found that people feeling shame about themselves, related to their porn consumption, were less motivated to change their behaviors and made fewer efforts to actually change. That’s not very good news, is it?

Related: 3 Ways Facing Your Shame Can Help You Break Free From Porn

At the end of the day, staying away from porn is worth it because going back to it, again and again, can quickly lead to and further fuel feelings of anxiety, depression, and self-doubt. It may satisfy for a few minutes, but what often comes after is not worth it.

Odds are, it’s probably not something that makes you feel like you’re doing something positive, and that’s reason enough to kick it to the curb.

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