I first heard about the movement from a friend with whom I discussed the topic of sexual exploitation and the porn-saturated culture. Finland, my home country, doesn’t really differ from any other western country in this sense, even though people are generally rather reserved.

I found FTND not only inspiring but academically credible—given the vast research material that the website displays—so I got some tee shirts and figured I’d go for it and see how people react.

Pretty soon, it became clear to me how the general response to my “Porn Kills Love”—shirts was going to be: silence. Having had my first bold red PKL shirt for almost year and a half now, I haven’t got a single comment from a stranger or an acquaintance, ever! The only ones commenting have been my close friends, who haven’t exactly had any strong reactions either. I do get a lot of stares though (the word “Porn” just happens to be a startling word to have on a shirt…I can tell ya!) but I can’t remember a single response, let alone an entire conversation.

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There are some definite pros and cons to this. I rarely get nervous about throwing a PKL shirt on on a regular day, since I don’t have the fear of rejection or pressure to get ready for hard conversations. But sometimes, especially when reading those stories of conversations that turn out awesome, I can’t help but feel a little…unsuccessful. Don’t they see? Doesn’t this make them wonder? Am I not bold-looking enough for them to come and strike up a conversation? It’s truly a weird feeling being deeply rooted in the comfort of an introverted society, while still hoping to see something more from complete strangers.

So I can only tell myself, and anyone else struggling with the same feeling of being invisible: you’re so not invisible. People just can’t overlook such a strong statement. Any gaze on the street might well be worth more than an hour-long debate, when the passer-by starts to think. After all, we are not first and foremost meant to argue our way into making people believe our cause, right? We’re not fighting the people, we’re fighting “the drug.” We are meant to spread knowledge that there is more to this phenomenon than what our culture makes us accept as a norm.

And while there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the long debates and arguments that the Fighters from more extroverted cultures often confront, the conversation can just as well change with no words at all.

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Plus: there’s no feeling like the one you get when you see another random Finn repping the same red PKL shirt that you have. I’ve never exchanged as many compliments and high fives with a stranger than I did that day.

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