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5 Tips to Help You Stay Strong While You Quit Porn

By January 22, 2019 No Comments
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January is almost over—have you kept up with your resolutions?

It’s still the beginning of 2019, and we hope you’re ready to ditch porn for good. If it’s something you or a loved one are struggling with, whether it’s been a few weeks or a years-long habit, porn doesn’t have to be a part of your life.

It may be challenging, but we have a few tips to help make the process a little easier, if you want to make 2019 the year you finally ditch porn for good. Remember: you’re not alone.

Here are 5 tips to consider before cranking through your porn-free goals into gear:

1. Exercise, healthy eating, and sleep never go out of style

We’ve talked about this before, but we can’t understate the importance of the “Big Three,” as we label them. It’s been shown that an overall lack of health is linked to more impulsive decisions, and in the fight to give up porn, one impulsive decision can knock consumers off track.

Exercise can boost neurogenesis, the formation of new cells, as well as dopamine receptors, which are key in healing the frontal cortex and the brain heal. Eating the right foods are key to overall health, and just like consuming porn is the same as taking in digital junk food, literally consuming physical junk won’t help the recovery process, either.

Related: Tips To Quit: What Sleep, Food, And Exercise Have To Do With Ditching Porn

Finally, sleep is one thing in general younger people don’t tend to get enough of. However, deprivation is linked to more drastic mood spikes, and is often underlying many mental illnesses. Porn addiction is no exception. Many people have found this to be particularly important in their process of recovery. Check out what those in recovery have to say.

2. Avoid shame, and give yourself permission to change

One of the biggest challenges with changing any habit, including porn, can be feelings of shame, or feeling like you’re a bad person because of a porn habit.

Studies show that this is counter-productive to recovery, big time. When it comes to shame, it can be a major roadblock on the path to recovery, because consumers feel they can’t change or can’t seem to stop stumbling while trying to recover. All of these feelings are detrimental, however, and hinder healing in the long run.

How do you get better? Give yourself permission to change. Studies demonstrate that guilt can motivate, while shame can only further the downward spiral, and underlies addiction. They show that accepting one’s problem and treating it with love and patience is key for recovery in any addiction.

3. Don’t be afraid to open up

Secrets can often hold consumers captive. We’ve heard countless stories of consumers who finally expressed their porn problem with a friend, mentor, or loved one, and were completely surprised by their response of support.

Rather than one of anger or disgust, loved ones’ responses can often be ones of acceptance and love. This is also considered a critical phase in any addiction. It helps with accountability, frees consumers to feel like the burden of the problem is their own, and creates anchors of stability and support throughout recovery.

Related: 4 Lifestyle Changes That Helped Me Quit Porn And Take Control Of My Life

Whether it’s a trusted friend, a brother, sister, or a specialist: opening up can be scary, but is an important step in progressing through recovery. Will 2019 be your year?

4. Find a support group

There are tons of communities out there: for sports, hobbies, education. Also, online communities have really expanded the reach and message of many of these communities and porn recovery groups are no exception.

Groups like NoFap, Reboot Nation, and PornFree Subreddit are just a few. Having a community of people to share their struggles, experiences, tips, and successes is not only motivating but, often times, necessary. Their importance can rarely be undervalued in the recovery for any addiction.

Related: 5 Tips For When It’s Time To Talk About Porn With A Partner

There are several recovery groups that like these whose aim is just that. Our friends at Fortify have designed an advanced system with a community base to help you on your journey as well. Not only will you be given step by step guidance, but you’ll be supported and encouraged by a community in your very same shoes. And what’s more, there are free options available for everyone on the platform.

5. Be patient with yourself

Finally, perhaps the most forgotten, but equally as important tip: be patient. Healing takes time, and is not a process without obstacles.

Taking the time to accept this as a process and relying on those around you for help is a positive and helpful thing. Time can heal wounds, and porn rewiring falls under that. Remember that shame helps no one, not even yourself, so don’t be ashamed if you experience setbacks. It’s normal.

Related: Tips To Quit: Why Setbacks Don’t Automatically Mean Failures

As we see from dozens of personal accounts, there’s definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. Loved ones can see it too, and are there to love us through our struggle with porn, not judge us for it.

Ready to start or continue your porn-free 2019? Kicking porn out of your life can start today, even though it’s not January 1 anymore. You got this, and we’re here for you every step of the way.

Need help?

For those reading this who feel they are struggling with pornography, you are not alone. Check out our friends at Fortify, a science-based recovery platform dedicated to helping you find lasting freedom from pornography. Fortify now offers a free experience for both teens and adults. Connect with others, learn about your compulsive behavior, and track your recovery journey. There is hope—sign up today.

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