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For Parents & Caregivers: How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn

Chances are, your child will encounter porn while living in your care. So how can you help them understand porn’s potential harms? Talk to them.

By September 22, 2021No Comments

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According to a nationally representative survey of teens, 84.4% of 14 to 18-year-old boys and 57% of 14 to 18-year-old girls have viewed pornography.Wright, P. J., Paul, B., & Herbenick, D. (2021). Preliminary insights from a U.S. probability sample on adolescents’ pornography exposure, media psychology, and sexual aggression. J.Health Commun., 26(1), 39-46. doi:10.1080/10810730.2021.1887980Copy 

Now, if you’re a parent reading that, maybe you’re thinking, “Not my kid! My kid would never watch porn!”

Related: For Parents: How To Update The “Sex Talks” With Your Kids To Include Porn

But it’s possible for kids to have seen porn without their parents knowing. According to a recent report by the BBFC, 75% of parents believed their child had never encountered porn. But in reality, 53% of those parents’ children reported that they had, in fact, seen porn.British Board of Film Classification. (2020). Young people, pornography & age-verification. BBFC. Retrieved from https://www.bbfc.co.uk/about-classification/researchCopy 

Chances are, your child will encounter porn while living in your care. So how can you prevent underage exposure to porn while helping them understand porn’s potential harms? The first step is to talk to them.

Conversation Blueprint

Having an open dialogue with your kids about porn can help build trust and understanding. Instead of having a one-time “sex talk,” make it an ongoing and shame-free conversation. Through your discussions, you can help your child develop the tools they need to respond to harmful material in a healthy way.

Related: For Parents: Your Child Just Told You They Struggle With Porn. Now What?

In your discussions, your child may disclose that they’ve seen porn, or that they’ve developed a porn habit. While you may be shocked or even disappointed, it’s important to react with kindness and understanding rather than shame. Remind your child that you’re there to love and support them.

The good news is that there are plenty of resources to help you. Our interactive discussion guide, “Let’s Talk About Porn,” gives helpful tips for navigating discussions about porn, and our partners at Bark have an affordable smart tool to help protect your child from harmful material online.

Bark

Bark proactively monitors texts, emails, and social media for potential safety concerns, including porn, self-harm situations, child predators, and cyberbullying. Bark helps parents save time and gain peace of mind without invading kids’ privacy or breaching trust.

Start protecting your kids online today. Sign up for a free 30-day trial of Bark. Find our interactive conversation guide.

Porn can feel like an overwhelming topic to discuss with your kids, but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Together, we can help empower the next generation with the information they need to develop healthy relationships with themselves and others!

Click here for tips and tricks specifically for talking with your kids in a shame-free way.

 

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