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At Fight The New Drug, we aim to educate others on the dangers of pornography through facts, scientific research, and personal accounts. Years of credible and peer-reviewed research make one thing abundantly clear: porn can kill love. At the very least, it can greatly damage someone’s capacity for experiencing healthy intimacy with another person.

But what do we mean by “love”? Not everyone is in a romantic relationship, and not everyone is looking for one. For some, it simply isn’t in the cards right now, or they’re not interested, and that’s completely okay.

Just because all of that romantic love stuff doesn’t apply to you right now, you can still take a stand for healthy friendships, family relationships, and a healthy self-image. Porn isn’t just a problem for people in romantic relationships, it’s a problem for everyone that has friends and family, or wants healthy self-esteem and good confidence. Porn doesn’t only affect romantic love, it can affect the love you have for yourself and anyone around you. Because porn can cause viewers to objectify those around them, and is deeply connected to sex-trafficking, it affects every part of our world, and it can even harm viewers’ perspectives of themselves.

Bottom line—porn is unhealthy not only for those in relationships, it’s unhealthy for anyone.

Porn Can Mess With Your Brain

Whether you’ve got a romantic relationship or not, you definitely have a brain—and it’s pretty important to keep it healthy. Your brain is involved with your feelings, your thoughts, and your behavior. When porn gets involved, all of that can get twisted.

At the heart of porn’s psychological effects is the chemical, dopamine. Dopamine makes us feel good; when you eat a juicy cheeseburger, dopamine is telling you to keep doing that. [1] The problem with porn, though, is that it hijacks this process, causing a massive release of dopamine. [2] After consistently viewing pornography, the brain can get used to high levels of dopamine, but each session brings less and less pleasure. [3] To get the same “high” that they are used to, an individual has to view pornography more frequently, or resort to increasingly violent and disturbing content. When dopamine levels start dropping, an individual can even experience depression and anxiety, leaving them feeling emptier and more alone.

Related: 3 Lies Most People Believe About Porn And The Brain

Beyond that, porn has even been shown to impact memory. When men were given memory tests after viewing sexually explicit images, they performed significantly worse than men who viewed nonsexual images. Add that to the list of porn’s harmful effects—forgetfulness.

Not everyone has romantic love, but everyone’s got a brain. If you love yours, and you want to keep it healthy, consider kicking porn to the curb.

Porn Can Hurt Families

Year after year, some of the most popular searches on porn sites are things like “mom,” “step-sister,” “teen,” and “step-mom and son.” This kind of content sexualizes family relations, turning a parent or sibling into a sex object.

Related: Understanding The Disturbing Rise Of Incest-Themed Hardcore Porn

When someone consumes the hardcore content found on countless mainstream porn sites, it can alter their sexual tastes and preferences, even if they aren’t in a relationship. That means that viewing incest-themed porn can teach viewers that having sex with a family remember is a healthy sexual fantasy, even if it is taboo.

Porn Can Damage Communities

When we think of human trafficking, we tend to believe that it only happens in a distant, faraway place. However, this simply isn’t true—real human beings are being exploited and abused in our communities today, right now. Many don’t realize that supporting one aspect of sexual exploitation fuels the sex trade as a whole. Clicking pornography supports the demand for sex trafficking by victimizing people who have been coerced, drugged, and abused into being on camera.

Related: How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking

Not only does pornography contribute to human trafficking, it also changes how individuals see the people in their communities. When someone views pornography of any kind, including non-violent porn, they are more likely to use verbal coercion, drugs, or alcohol to push women into sex. [4] Additionally, those who view non-violent porn are also more likely to support statements that promote abuse and sexual exploitation of women and girls. [5] If non-violent porn has such degrading impacts on its viewers, consider the impacts of the more violent and hardcore content that makes up about 88% of mainstream porn.

Porn contributes to the sex trafficking and sexual violence that tears our communities apart. Be part of the solution, and choose to love your community by not contributing to the demand for sexual exploitation.

Why This Matters

Loneliness is a huge factor in some viewers’ desire to watch porn. For those who aren’t in a romantic relationship and really want to be, it can feel like you’re the only one who resorts to porn to feel some kind of momentary connection to another human. While everyone is wired to connect to and need other people, porn can never fill that need. Porn can’t be your friend, or your family, and porn can’t give you a real, lasting self-esteem boost.

But even if you’re not in a romantic relationship, quality friendships and spending time with family can fulfill that need for connection and love in ways porn can’t.

At the end of the day, the fight for love is worth it—for the love we have for our friends, our families, and ourselves. The effects of pornography are everywhere; it affects all of us, whether we are in a relationship or not. Porn has the potential to alter how our brains work, and it supports global sexual exploitation. Porn can take all the best parts of life away and leave us with less than the best.

We believe there’s a much higher quality of life than anything porn can offer, and that goes for anyone—single or not.

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