What if we told you that there’s an epidemic spreading across our entire world?
What if we said a harmful public health issue our society is facing today is something that is readily accessible in every home but not many people realize how bad it is?
What if there were science and research showing that this problem is constantly negatively affecting countless human lives and relationships?
Whether we like it or not, all these things are true. In the society we live in, this very thing does exist and it’s deeply affecting our culture and relationships.
What is it?
Don’t run away just yet, this is important. The science is clear: pornography is harmful and research is proving it.
Porn harms the brain by changing and rewiring it. Studies have shown that similar to other addictive substances, porn floods the brain with pleasure chemicals like dopamine. That rush of brain chemicals happening over and over again rewires the brain’s reward pathway ultimately changing the make up of the viewer’s brain. This can result in an increased appetite for porn.
And not only does porn affect the viewer, but it also affects those around them as well. Research has found that after men are exposed to pornography, they rate themselves as less in love with their partner than men who didn’t see any porn. On top of that, another study found that after being exposed to pornographic images, people were more critical of their partner’s appearance, sexual curiosity, sexual performance, and displays of affection.
If all this doesn’t paint a very clear picture about the proven harms of pornography, then we don’t know what will. Porn is not only just a problem within itself—it’s a four letter word that most people are too scared/embarrassed/uncomfortable to talk about. And just like our good friend Hermoine Granger says:
Somewhere along the way in our society, we fell into thinking that porn is something we shouldn’t talk about. Today, we are living in a society where the consumption of porn seems to have become mainstream in our society, yet the discussion about it has remained taboo.
But the simple truth is that the porn issue will only get worse if we ignore it. If we don’t start the conversation about porn, who will? If not now, when? Pornography won’t stop causing emotional, physical, relational, and societal damage just because we turn a blind eye to it. It only will get stronger and continue to affect the lives of millions all across the world.
Our inboxes are filled with thousands of emails from people sharing their stories of how porn ruined their lives/relationships. We get too many that tell us they are struggling with porn but are too afraid to speak up. They’re not sure how others will react, so it causes them to remain silent and struggle alone. The perceived shame from admitting there’s a problem in our society is crippling our ability to tackle the issue head-on.
It can be all too easily forgotten that porn is an issue that affects way more people than we realize. If we choose to talk about it, we’d be surprised at how much empathy and encouragement we’d find, and how many would be relieved at the chance to get support.
We’d be willing to guess that porn is perhaps the fastest growing addiction the world is facing today. Never before has something so naturally appealing yet potently destructive been so easily accessible. Think about it—when in society has there been 24/7, 365 unlimited access to watching hardcore sex with the click of a button on a device that fits into our pockets? The answer is never. We are the first generation in history to deal with this epidemic. And we will be the generation that will put an end to it.
With something this dangerous in our society, it’s time we started talking about it. It’s time to break the silence. If a criminal were attacking people in your neighborhood, you’d do something about it, right? If the safety of your family and friends were in jeopardy, you’d do something about it, right?
The problem of porn is no different. Porn has far-reaching, damaging effects on individuals, relationships, and society as a whole. Unless we do something about it.
There are lots of four letter words out there, some more insulting than others. But none are more dangerous than the one that is going to get worse if we ignore it:
Change starts with us. It starts with us taking a stand for authentic relationships, and raising awareness on the real harms of porn. It starts with us fighting for real love, and not settling for anything less.
Now is the time to create a new normal in society and shut down this increasing porn culture in our society. It’s time we stop ignoring the XXX elephant in the room. All it takes to change these attitudes and perceptions about porn in society is to educate ourselves, starting a chain reaction of social change. We all have the power to take a stand and speak out. You with us?
What YOU Can Do
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