My divorce was finalized, mostly owing to his porn problem. My advice is to look at the person as a whole human rather than just someone who struggles with porn.
“Did I feel like this when I was addicted to porn? Did I feel like I wanted to be with porn, love it and marry it? Did porn give me this giddy feeling? NO.”
“He asked me to help keep him accountable, so every day I would just hold up my thumb and he would give me a thumbs up if he had done well or a thumbs down if he hadn’t. He knew that there would be no judgment on my part, just love.”
In reality, porn doesn’t add any lasting health or positivity to consumers’ lives, relationships, or the world. If you’re yet to be convinced, consider these points before consuming.
When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].” A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.”
But I was so tired of being ashamed, and I was so tired of it sucking up my life and compromising my relationships that I finally forced myself to admit it to another person.
Each fact below summarizes relevant research on a specific topic surrounding the effects of watching porn. Consider before consuming.
“I’ve been addicted to porn for most of my life. I started exploring my sexuality much earlier than I care to share.”
Are you feeling suicidal? There is hope, and there is help. For anyone struggling with depression or feelings of hopelessness, here’s how you can build a crisis plan and get support.
Porn can negatively affect your brain, body, and quality of life. Quitting porn can help interrupt an unhealthy cycle of mental health issues, for one, and for another, it can improve relationships.
Porn isn’t produced with accurate information about sex in mind, it’s created to entertain and manifest fantasies—no matter how violent or violating.
If you’re someone who isn’t ready or willing to date someone who has struggled, that’s okay. Here at Fight the New Drug, we believe fighting against shame is part of the fight against porn.
