It can be awkward to bring up a topic like porn with your partner, but it’s an important conversation. Here’s how to get it started!
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Relationship experts, Doctors John and Julie Gottman, explain it this way, “When one person becomes accustomed to [being aroused] to porn, they are actually turning away from intimate interaction.”
There’s a growing body of evidence that suggests our brains actually function better when we’re interacting with others and experiencing togetherness.
“Did I feel like this when I was addicted to porn? Did I feel like I wanted to be with porn, love it and marry it? Did porn give me this giddy feeling? NO.”
“He asked me to help keep him accountable, so every day I would just hold up my thumb and he would give me a thumbs up if he had done well or a thumbs down if he hadn’t. He knew that there would be no judgment on my part, just love.”
The reality is, not all men take sexual pleasure in the pain, degradation, and humiliation of others. But we wouldn’t necessarily know that just by looking at the mainstream porn industry that claims to show everyone’s “fantasies,” would we?
Porn sells the toxic idea that women are always eager and ready to have sex, and that they’re very easy to arouse. How are these unrealistic fantasies shaping society’s understanding of women?
“I quickly became obsessed with pleasing my boyfriend. I would watch all the porn he watched and study it like a textbook.”
“If girls’ legs are crossed, boys often walk by and say, ‘Spread ‘em.’ They are in sixth grade. No 11-year-old should have to deal with things like this.”
In the past decade, there has been a 90% increase in the usage of the “sex game gone wrong” defense in hundreds of UK murder cases.
“It wasn’t until I decided to quit porn and really focus on my family and wife that things turned around. It’s been the best 4 months of my life so far!”