This post was originally created by a Fighter and posted on her personal blog. It is reposted with her permission.


I struggle.

I am not the only woman who does. Maybe you do, maybe you know someone that does.

I was convinced that I was the only one. I thought I stood alone and that sucked. I was so ashamed of myself and I felt like I was hiding all of the time. The struggle is real, I get it. A boy introduced it to me when I was fourteen. It’s like sinking sand with no escape.

That feeling of being alone changed my junior year in college when a counseling group was started for woman struggling with pornography. I walked into that room and it hit me that I wasn’t alone.

Pornography is meant to make you feel isolated and alone. It did for me, but beginning to talk about it has changed my life. For the first time I feel free and unashamed of who I am. Now, I don’t stop talking about it. It’s a comfortable topic that comes up easily. My friends are just used to it by now.

I want to continue talking about it. So I began with this project which I’m calling In Response. I had each of these girls write down the messages they are hearing around them about women or people in general that struggle with pornography, but then I had them write down separately how they would respond to that message.

These are real girls, real responses from females just like me who are beginning to speak out against pornography addiction.

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“…I want to be seen for my passions, my interests and my dreams. NOT my struggle. Who am I? I laugh and smile a lot. My favorite food is ice-cream. Serving people is one of my greatest passions. I am imperfect, but hey, that’s okay. THAT is my identity.”

 

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“…I want people to be willing to ask questions. Stop making it taboo. Asking questions is not noisy; it shows me that you care. It tells me what I am going through matters. Ask me: ‘What is it like to struggle as a woman?’ or ‘What has this taught you?’”

 

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“…I don’t want a response for myself, but I would just want it to give truth, perspective and hope to someone who needs it.”

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“…I suppose people would tell me that’s no reason to view porn. But that is not my point. I think I’m so ruined by being raised in a society that made me fear my sexuality. Now at 21, I am thinking deeply about what it means to be a sexual being.”

 

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“…I’ve struggled since my early teens and was overcome with guilt and shame. I refused to do anything about it, thinking I was the only one. I’m human and now I am slowly learning what it means to be a sexual being.”

Talking has helped me find my voice in the silence. Maybe it can help you find yours too. Remember, you are not alone. You are not fighting alone. Us girls, we stick together.

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Probably one of the biggest and longest-held myths in our society is that it is normal for guys to watch porn, and included in that false belief is the idea that girls don’t watch porn.

Newsflash—women are human beings with sexual desire just like men, and they struggle with porn as well.

Society’s stereotype is all wrong when it comes to this issue. A recent survey shows more of what we already knew: women are just as easily at risk of becoming dependent upon porn as men. The study showed that as many as 17% of women consider themselves addicted to porn, and that half of the women surveyed were internet porn users.

There are plenty more stats where those came from, including one study that found about half of young adult women agree that viewing pornography is acceptable and 1/3 of young women reported using porn.

At the end of the day, it makes no sense to view females as not having sexual desire or ability to be aroused by pornography. One of porn’s biggest traits is that it so naturally appeals to the natural sexuality that we all have as humans. For any of us to think that girls don’t have that same sexual drive as guys is completely mistaken. It’s heartbreaking to think that so many girls feel like they can’t reach out to anyone because of the stigma that porn is just a guy thing.

We’re here to break the taboo, and fight for love for everyone.

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