Many people contact Fight the New Drug to share their personal stories about how porn has affected their life or the life of a loved one. We consider these personal accounts very valuable because, while the science and research is powerful within its own right, personal accounts from real people seem to really hit home about the damage that pornography does to real lives.

We recently received this true story from a woman who shows us how love can outlast a porn addiction. Some stories, like this one, show how much more vibrant relationships can be when it’s just the two partners focusing on rebuilding trust and love, without porn stars as the secretive third wheel.


Hey FTND,

I wanted to say – it is possible for someone to overcome 10+ years of intense addiction and live a life of deep, trusting, and unadulterated love.

My now husband admitted his addiction to me when we had been dating about 6 months. I didn’t know the extent of it at the time, but the following two years would show me, as he continually struggled and failed to combat the addiction. We fought, we took “breaks,” I doubted his ability to recover… But time and time again he proved to me that his genuine character was good. And that although this addiction was tearing him apart, it was not who he really was.

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When I advise other women in the same situation I tell them to examine the man’s character. If the addiction stems from a deep character flaw, then it may not be something to overcome in the context of relationship. But if his character shines through… It does not have to be the end.

As we continued to work together, he gave up technology all together for a time. He attended addiction recovery meetings, and saw a counselor. With guidance, assistance, and community around him, he is now two years porn-free! And our relationship is rooted in complete trust and knowing that we will both fail each other at times, but we love each other at our best and worst.

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Thank you for what you all do. I know how destructive porn is, and I know what real love looks like outside of it. And I believe that one day society will see it too, thanks to your work! Thank you for giving people hope!

D.

Why This Matters

We love stories like this! Humans are wired for emotional and physical connection to other humans, and relationships can be lived out in the healthiest ways when trust and genuine intimacy are the main factors. The fight for love and the fight against porn may be difficult, but it’s always worth it.

It may seem like porn isn’t that big of a deal. Why celebrate someone’s freedom from something that is just harmless personal entertainment, right? The truth is, study after study have revealed the deep emotional, psychological and even physical harms that pornography can cause the viewer and their partner. Porn can drive a deep wedge between partners, fuel anxiety and depression, and it can even harm the viewer’s sexual health, including causing erectile dysfunction for males. Watching isn’t worth it, especially considering pornography’s huge link to sex trafficking and sexual exploitation.

For those struggling, or have partners who may be struggling with this addictive habit, steadfast and dedicated love can win out over a porn obsession, especially when both partners are committed to working together towards healthy change.

We stand for authentic relationships that strive for selflessness and mutuality, and strive to keep porn out of the picture. We stand for love. You with us?

 

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What YOU Can Do

Authentic, dedicated love is the best love there is. SHARE this article to show support for those who are struggling with this addictive habit.

Need help?

For those reading this who feel they are struggling with an obsession or addiction to pornography, male or female, you are not alone. We’ve got your back. Check out Fortify, the online recovery program we helped to develop, that will allow you take a step toward freedom. Anyone 20 years and younger can apply for a free scholarship to the program, and it is an inexpensive fee for anyone 21 and older. There is hope—sign up today and start getting the help you need at your own pace.

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